7 stages to your waking consciousness
As I see more clients in sessions waking to their true natures, I hear very similar stories from each one. There seems to be a sort of process to waking I thought I’d map out. Not everyone goes through these steps in just this way, but in case you’re in the thick of it and need a little reassurance that you’re not going crazy, here’s what I’ve noticed.
A person going through their waking process seems to feel lonely though they have families and good friends. The activities and conversations they once enjoyed fall flat now. They feel different somehow, but don’t know what has brought on this change. It’s as if the world they knew and trusted seems dull, boring, shallow, unreal. Every day the same old, same old. They worry that there’s something wrong with them and that they might be losing their minds.
Awakening doesn’t offer belonging at first, it tends to shatter the illusion of life you thought real.
The first stage of waking often tears apart the world you thought of as “yours.” Like a storm that levels everything. Perhaps an illness comes, or your career ends, or a partner leaves. It feels awful. Like devastation. Like nothing is right and may never be again. It doesn’t feel spiritual at all. It feels like punishment as the identity you crafted crumbles. You are no longer the person you were, but do not know who you are. Nothing makes sense.
The second stage is the discovery you are not invincible, and this happens through your pain. You are breakable. Vulnerable. Everything feels raw, an open wound that won’t heal the same way it did before. You will try to force your old way of normalcy, to go back to what used to work for you. But the harder you try, the worse you feel. Every attempt to go back falls apart faster. This feels terrifying. It feels as if you are experiencing loss and nothing else. Life is stripping you of everything. This is the dark night of the soul. The bottom. There is no timeline here. Your journey is what it is and could last a month, a year, a decade. This is the time the ego fights for its life. This is the time of intense questioning, confusion, and the deconstruction of old beliefs. Nothing feels solid or true. You are suffering. It feels endless. You can’t return to who you were, but you’re can’t yet move into who you are becoming. This is the long death of the egoic foundation built on lies. Each person goes through this again and again, this stripping away in their own time and way.
The third stage is the process of seeking meaning because you can’t stay in the emptiness and you can’t go back to your old belief structure. So, you look for answers in books, teachers, podcasts. You explore subjects you hadn’t before like physics, psychology, mysticism, religion, science, ancient cultures, astronomy, astrology, biology, energy, the natural world. This is where you start opening a bit by noticing the similarity they all speak of. Though you feel lonely, you begin to see you are not separate from anything. Life is oneness. You are already part of the whole.
The fourth stage is awareness. You start seeing with a new perspective. You begin to notice abundance everywhere. Opportunities abound as a natural process of life. You start seeing people differently with more compassion. You recognize the hurt behind their behavior. They are not so much lashing out as they are attempting to protect themselves against hurt. You also start seeing yourself more honestly and recognize the ways you’ve gone against yourself. You also discover the strength and courage that were always there. The wisdom and goodness that are inherently you. When your awareness deepens, you see yourself and the rest of the world as more whole than you ever imagined. You begin to change. You can’t unknow what you now see and experience. You are no longer interested in the same arguments or feel like convincing anyone of anything. You don’t need to be right. You tend to take a breath, look at the circumstance for what it is, and step away. Your reality has shifted to something larger yet more intimate, more real.
This is transformation. Not through comfort, but through facing all aspects of life (and yourself) that you didn’t want to. No more stuffing, pleasing, bargaining, controlling, grasping, belittling. What you feel is freedom. The freedom to show up in ways you couldn’t have imagined before. Instead of anger or bitterness in a relationship, you feel the same circumstance as an opportunity to fully listen to the person without taking everything personally. Life experiences no longer reflect your worth, but simply offer an opportunity to redirect your thoughts which changes your path. Even standing in line offers an opportunity to breathe in peace and end frustrated irritation. You smile more at strangers, dogs, babies.
This stage is the beginning of alignment with who you are—an expression of the Universe Itself, the God Essence always present within you. When you live from this experienced knowing, life takes on a new quality of naturalness. An authenticity you can’t fake. You are you no matter where you are or who you are with. You are not battling against anything. You no longer need to resist anything. You feel a sense of connection even in the challenges you go through. Things seem less like they’re happening to you, and more like perhaps they are happening for you and through you. Synchronicities are everywhere. Isolation dissolves. You feel guided and can trust the accuracy. You surrender fully to life and see you no longer need protection. Choices become clear.
The last step is oneness. Fear mostly dissolves because you see yourself in others and recognize the same struggles you have in them. The same strength, the same hopes and dreams. You stop seeing life as the enemy and now see it as the same force in you. You are not separate from anything, but truly whole and always have been. This begins your true love affair with life as the natural beautiful amazing authentic you.
Humanity is waking. It is unavoidable. Please know if you’re in your time of waking, it will feel as if something has gone horribly wrong at first. But hang in there. You are not broken. You are not alone. You are precious. You are needed. You are in a process of uncovering the miracle that is you. Much, much love for your process.
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